You've finally decided to start pursuing your goals, you're managing all of your tasks, and for the most part, progression is happening, but you notice that you find yourself being exhausted, sometimes borderline discouraged, and all you want is a hug or listening ear. This moment can be frustrating and feel lonely, but it shouldn't, and there are ways to get out of it.
Starting a new business or even just getting yourself in a better state of mind, requires a lot of time, effort, and self motivation, all of which can wear us down. Although we may have the tools and the energy to work at beast mode level, it's impossible to maintain, and the only way to regenerate ourselves is through an ongoing foundation of support.
For some of us, that support may be our friends, for others it may be a network of like minded people. Either way, we need to make sure we're linked to some kind of encouragement group, but it can be difficult to reach out and ask for help. The thing is, most people want to help and find their own motivation in doing so, but not everyone has your best interest in mind, and that, is what we need to be sure of, before we invite someone onto our path to success.
HOW TO KNOW SOMEONE IS GENUINELY SUPPORTIVE
They Check In With You
Many times we'll tell our support or our friends about what we're trying to accomplish, and even that can be a big deal. Sharing your dreams and vision can feel naked, we don't always know how someone is going to take it, but true friends/support will encourage you. In fact, not only will they encourage you, but they'll check in with you to see if you've made progress. Accountability is probably one of the most motivating factors when it comes to goals. I just got a personal trainer and it was the best decision I made for myself, because I know he's going to make sure I give 100%. Keeping people around you who really want to see your vision come to life is vital, and you'll know this is real when they call you to see how it's going. These are keepers!!!
"Accountability is probably one of the most motivating factors when it comes to goals."
They Allow You Space
We've all been there, everyone's hanging out and you really want to go but you know you have work to do, you carved out time to get it done, but you suddenly feel this pressure like you HAVE to be there. So you call your friends and tell them you can't go because you need to work, and they give you "booooorrrrring" and try to convince you that you can do it another time. This is definitely not support that understands the magnitude of what you're trying to accomplish. we all suffer from #fomo sometimes, but trust me Sunday Funday can wait. In fact, next week there will be another one you can plan on attending. The type of support you need while making moves, is the kind that doesn't give you a hard time about skipping certain events, in fact, they encourage you to get things done. Not everyone is going to give you that, but pay attention to those that do. Set up a schedule for yourself and let them know about it, maybe they'll work around it, but if they don't and they tell you something along the lines of "get it girl," then you know you've got some A team support. Support isn't offended by your absence when you're chasing your dreams, instead they're proud of your effort.
"Support isn't offended by your absence when you're chasing your dreams."
They Offer Help
Having a support group doesn't just mean sitting on the side lines being a by stander, it also means offering you help. Be wary of friends/support who do nothing but watch you work hard, they may not be here to celebrate your victories or believe in you. The kind of support you'll need is going to make sure they've given you resources too, they're going to want to watch and participate in your victories, small or large. Wether it be watching your kids for an hour, or looking into something for you, or just being a shoulder when you feel discouraged. True support let's you know that they're there for you and tells you to call on them. Not only will these people rejoice over your accomplishments, but they're going to feel motivated by you too. The first order of networking is looking in your circle, who and what can you pull from those who are there for you. Real support wants to help you succeed and be a part of that success.
"Real support wants to help you succeed and be a part of that success."
They Celebrate You
Being excited about what you're doing is what will keep you working hard, but we don't always have the self motivation when we're tired and discouraged. This is where your tribe comes in, look for those who celebrate what you're trying to achieve. Stay around those who are moved by what you're doing and toast to your new found mission. You'll begin to see certain people who won't mention your goals or achievements, they won't display emotions of joy when you speak about it. Perhaps they're feeling insecure or jealous, or don't have the motivation that you have. We never want to feel alone when we're working towards a life goal, and it's ok to need a pat on the back every now and then. Your support should be encouraging you and reminding you of how awesome it is that you're pursuing your passions.
"Your support should be encouraging you and reminding you of how awesome it is that you're pursuing your passions."
Let's face it, what you're trying to do is AMAZING!!! You're taking the steps to become a better you, and in turn, offering the world something spectacular. This is no small feat, and everyone around you should feel the same way about it. Working as hard as you are to make sure you're hitting every target takes a lot of work, time, and energy, and the best thing to have around you is support. There may come a time when you look at your circle of friends and realize some are not going to give you that, don't be discouraged, not every friend is meant to be in your life for the same reasons. In the same tone, not every friend is going to follow you on your journey, and that's ok too. However, in order for you to get to where you need to be, you're going to need a strong tribe of people who are going to celebrate with you, keep you accountable, and help you when you need it. Seek those people out, bring them into your vision, and call on them. Your journey may be a stepping stone for them too.
You Got This!!!!