We've been discussing living in your purpose for the past few weeks, and while it's been a motivating and encouraging topic I've found that a lot of people have come to me with complaints of feeling stressed about all the tasks and to-dos. The thing is, there's a healthy level of stress and an unhealthy level of stress. Typically, when we're anticipating a goal or accomplishment and we're working towards it, we find ourselves in a hurried excited stress. If we find ourselves in danger, we enter into the "fight or flight" level of stress, where our body responds with chemical balances to help us know how to react to the danger. And lastly, we can feel moments of crippling stress, when something heart wrenching happens, or when we feel we have no control over something. All of these examples evoke stress, and while some are easily avoided or quickly fade, others can cause long term health issues. These are the kinds we need to avoid. Here's how:
One fourth of all prescription drugs sold and prescribed are for stress related symptoms and/or stress alone.
Before we go into the ways we can eliminate or manage our stress levels, it's important to understand why these solutions actually work... it's all science, baby.
When we begin to experience stress our bodies release hormones and chemicals, mainly adrenaline and cortisol. Adrenaline is a familiar one to us all, we know it kicks in when we're in intense situations, and usually lingers for little bit. We can feel it when we feel danger, or excitement, or even just a good workout. Cortisol is what regulates our immune system and metabolism, also closely related to our hormones. Cortisol helps us maintain our energy levels which typically connects to our level of motivation and drive, one of the bigger factors in the "fight or flight" system. Both adrenaline and cortisol help will secrete when we come face to face with a stressor, help increase our energy, use up our stored sugar and energy, pump up our hearts, until we're able to relieve ourselves from the stress. Now imagine the damage that can happen if we prolong our stress and put our bodies through this ringer constantly. Eventually, we could be looking at diabetes, high blood pressure, anxiety, insomnia, and weight issues. This was a huge AHA moment for me, I really began to look at my reaction to life in a more weighted way.
Now we understand what happens with to our bodies when we stress out, we can easily use these tools to manage our stress.
Be An Objective Observer
What on earth does that mean, you ask????? Well, essentially it's being able to look at your life and the things that are happening from the observers perspective. Being able to separate yourself from the moment, allows you time to react appropriately. When you always think the world is doing something to you, or that you're a victim of everything that's happening, it'll feel like a pile of bricks are sitting on your chest. However, if you're able to stop, (insert 60 second rule here), then assess and come up with a plan/solution, you'll find that you're able to still go through it, but minus the extra unnecessary chemical routine. No one is immune to trials and suffering in life, but the key to survival is to know how to deal and manage these struggles with grace and calm.
As mentioned before, perspective is everything. On a bad day you'll only remember or recall the negative things that happened to you, you'll forget that your kids enjoyed every bite of the dinner you cooked, that you made headway in that project you've been stalling on, or that someone told you how good you looked. It's a proven fact that reminding yourself of positive events can negate the negative ones. I have a love for old school paperback planners, and every night I go over the tasks I completed and carry over the ones I didn't; more importantly I make sure to write down one thing that happened that made me happy that day. By doing this daily, I end the day on a high, I regulate my cortisol levels before I lay my head down. I urge you to do this, write down ANYTHING positive that you can remember happened during your day, let that sink in.
Switch Out Bad Habits
Oh did I have to pray and meditate on this one... release yourself from caffeine! Studies have shown that people who drink tea over coffee have shown substantial decrease in stress levels, and adrenaline and cortisol release during stressful situations. It seems like a small change, but over time, these small changes will show big benefits. By decreasing your body's ability to overproduce cortisol, you lighten it's response to stress. Obviously, if there are other habits that you know increase your heart rate, quit them. Find new ones. It may not seem like it now, but in the long run they will affect you.
60 Seconds to Soothe
Ok... this is the holy grail of distressing when you begin to feel all your levels rise. Engaging in proper breathing exercises really releases your tension, slows down your heart rate, forces your chemical balance to regulate, and brings oxygen back into your blood stream.
The month of October has been truly special because we've been sinking into our deeper sense of self, becoming who we were meant to be, and living in our purpose. Last week we spent time defining purpose and really gaining an understanding of what purpose is and how we can introduce it into our lives. The task for the week last week, was to create a list of all the things that bring you joy. Now is the time to get that list out. While we all have hobbies and passions that bring us joy, not all of them may be our calling or purpose, how do we know?? Here are 5 ways to know if a hobby/gift/talent of yours is your purpose.
1. Your purpose gives you a sense of gratitude
Purpose isn't exactly the way Webster's dictionary defines it, it is an actual spiritual connection between you and the world around you. Consider all the moving pieces inside a computer, each piece carrying it's own purpose, each part working towards keeping the computer working. You are a piece of the world, of your community, of the mechanism that is your life. In order for everything in the world to work at it's best, we need to function at our best, imagine how good it must feel to know that you are so important to the functionality of the world. IT FEELS AMAZING!!!!!! The only was to respond to this is with gratitude. When you decide to live in purpose, those who come across you will feel grateful for what you share, for the energy you give off, and in turn it will extend to you.
2. Your Purpose Heals
When you decide to live in your purpose and share it with others, it will begin to heal those you connect with. In sharing your story and your calling, you'll find others being inspired by you, calling on you to share "how did you do it?" Here's the gift of sharing your gift, you will become healed by healing others, you will become more open by opening up to others, you will grow as you help others grow. Your purpose should provide healing to others when you share it.
3. Your Purpose is Altruistic
As much as your purpose will give you a sense of worth and value, there should be a selflessness about it. You should be willing to expand your purpose with others, want to teach others about your purpose in the hopes that they would benefit. When I realized I my calling was to become a life coach, it was truly a cathartic experience for me. Clearly, I was pushing myself to dig deeper into who I was and the gifts I had to share, but I was truly hoping to lift others up. My joy came from hearing my clients speak about how my calling has helped them pursue theirs. Purpose will give you a sense of altruistic joy, you will gain strength from empowering others to do better.
4. Your Purpose Connects
Finding your purpose means finding your tribe, the people who think and feel and move like you. Imagine a world where everyone was living and breathing in their purpose?????? People would be encouraged, uplifting others, smiling, taking time to motivate those in need. Living in your purpose will bring you a sense of passion and fire to be excited, and in that space of happiness people will be attracted to you. The thing is, living in your purpose is a major attraction to those around you. When you listen to someone who is passionate about what they do, you suddenly become excited about what they do. I have never been more captivated than listening to this guy talk to me about butterflies, for about 2 hours he had my full attention, his hands were going and his eyes were lit up, and I was a moth to his flame. Wether or not I cared for butterflies his passion ignited me and I was connected. Your purpose should connect you to others!!
5. Your Purpose Forces You to Evolve
The one final thing and most amazing thing about living in your purpose is that YOU will grow and change with each new depth you sink into. Living in purpose isn't a destination, it's a journey. Just as your childhood dreams changed when you became an adult, so will your sense of purpose as you continue to discover it. I know once I found my calling as a life coach, it really pushed me to learn more about who I was, to uncover my own pains in order to help uncover others, and even now I am still unraveling parts of myself. It is the gift that keeps on giving.
Living in your purpose will always be the most successful thing you can with your life, you'll know when you're living in it because you will have a peace about you. There's nothing more satisfying that knowing you are fulfilling what the universe has called you to do, and you will.
Almost 3 times a week as I'm driving to work, as many of us do, I sit and watch people making their daily commute to work themselves, and I wonder if this routine habit they have achieved is really fulfilling them. Does their 9 to 5 add to their lives in any real way besides a paycheck, most likely not. A huge percentage of people are daunted by the early wake up every morning, the energy output that consumes their day, and then the money that inevitably goes to bills. We all have to do it, it's adulting, it's responsibility, but it can also be the very thing that makes us feel chained. My question to you is, why? Why do we commit 70% or more of our lives to something that doesn't bring value to our mental wellness? I'll be a doing a series/workshop that'll help you answer these questions, but also help you find ways to understand your purpose and work towards making it your key to success.
What is PURPOSE?
By definition, purpose is the reason for which something is created. This is SO important!!!!!! Moving through life without purpose, essentially means you are living without knowing why. How depressing is that?? Regardless of what higher power you believe in, you must believe that you were born to do something meaningful in the world. Meaningful does not equate to the amount of dollar signs in your bank account, if this is what you feel your purpose has been then I hate to tell you, you are mistaken. A lot of people will say that becoming a parent was their purpose, but this too is a hat that you wear. I know that being a mother is huge role that I play, and by far, one of the more meaningful jobs that I have, but it is not my purpose. We have to be sure we do not mistake our jobs for our purpose. Our job is usually the daily commitment we have made to someone else to provide them a service, in fact by definition our job is a paid position of regular employment.
We have to be sure we do not mistake our jobs for our purpose. Our job is usually the daily commitment we have made to someone else to provide them service, in fact by definition our job is a paid position of regular employment.
Your job is NOT your purpose
If that sounds like purpose to you, then I cannot wait for you to see how your life will change when you learn what your purpose really is. The thing is, we all start our journeys in a similar way... We go to college, get our degree, get a job, get married, have kids, etc. You've seen the movie, you're living the movie. Society has taught us to do things this way, and while it's more than likely tried and true, it may not bring your closer to your purpose. It's rare that our parents allow us the space to explore the passions that we truly enjoy, and as we get sucked into the world, we move farther and farther from those passions. Here's the golden nugget, if you are truly drawn to a gift, then you will naturally want to learn as much as you possibly can. You will become an expert in that gift, and in turn, people will want to learn from you. Already you have given someone a gift, just in exploring yours. The benefits of sharing your gift with the world is that you have now become a part of someone else journey. You've become an integral part of someone else's life and purpose. That is the human experience. Ask yourself now, does my job help other people and myself grow closer to their/my purpose? If the answer is no, stop and take moment, decide if this is the path you want to continue to take.
You don't have to quit your job
So, now we've tapped into what purpose means, but don't panic, you don't have to quit your job to be living a life of purpose; however, you do need to make it your job to take steps in the direction of pursuing your purpose. Living for the weekends, just isn't living. You can't save your to-do list for the weekend, you also can't make the weekends the only time you feel free. When I decided to change the course of my life and become a life coach, I knew that it meant I was going to have to work harder, put in more time, exert energy I barely thought I had, but it was done with a smile and gratitude. Working in for your purpose should be welcomed and a task that is enjoyed. When I started out changing gears into life coaching, I still taught full-time, I would come home and plan out the tasks I needed to complete everyday to get my life coaching business off the ground. I reveled in the work that I was doing for business because I knew it was my purpose. Eventually, after countless hours I was able to work less hours teaching and devote more time to my life coaching. My purpose made room for me. In fact, I'd go so far to say, in knowing my purpose I became free. The time I spent working on my business that was bringing me so much joy, felt like a productive meditation. It was me time. It was time I was sewing back into my spirit. So don't go quitting your day job, just start investing in your life's work.
Make sure to check out my Youtube channel Becoming You for quick fix videos on this serious about "Living In Your Purpose."
This is a journey... take it easy!
I may have never thanked you for what you did for me, so I wanted to thank you now. There's few opportunities where learning is as cut-throat as it was in our relationship. The thing is, it was beautifully painful.
The gift I received while being together was being able to watch you grow through love, hurt through love, and then grieve through love. I watched myself feel these things alongside you. Two hearts separated but feeling the same joys and strains of love. It took me a while to figure out how to deal with that, but when I did, I realized how much stronger I was capable of being. You see, you loved me into the next phase of my journey.
Gratitude is the feeling I have when I think of you, I've been released from the negative space I was in. In fact, I look back and think about how thankful I am that everything happened the way that it did. I hope that you have the same convictions about love and see that even in it's darkest hour, our relationship pushed me... pushed me right into the light.
I will never regard you as a mistake, and I hope you do the same. I hope, like me, you smile when you think of the love we shared, and know, it was unique in our journey. You were an integral part of my story, an irreplaceable character, and no other could write this story. Through the love and admiration we shared, I learned how to love myself more, and in turn, love better.
To You, My old lover, I am thankful.
We're more than halfway through the year, you've probably written down your yearly goals and created your vision board, but nothing has played out the way you planned in the beginning of the year. We've all been there, I usually struggle with one of my goals during the year, and if you're reading this, you're probably standing in that position. It's difficult maintaining a certain level of motivation and keeping yourself focused on the goal, but rest assured you can get back on track. Motivation is much like waves, sometimes it comes crashing on you and you feel like you've got everything under control, other times its barely rising and you can't seem to get excited to do the most basic tasks. It's ok, you'll get there, understanding why you're not motivated is the first step into finding your passion again.
You've Lost Excitement
This is one of those fundamental truths that can happen to the most successful of people. Bottomline, if your heart isn't in it, your actions won't be either. You may have a goal in mind or a vision for you life, and it may seem like the most exciting thing or accomplishment you can achieve when you first start out, but then over time you may begin to lose that passion for the shiny gold prize. The goal itself may not be as important to you, and if that's the case you may want to reassess your goals. That's ok, as we grow and change so does our vision of our future. Just like as children we all wanted to be a vet or a cowboy, as we get older that changes, this is life, and it's natural. If you find yourself unmoved by your goal plan, reevaluate it, change it, recreate it. Whatever you want to do with you life, let it be a source of your joy, not a struggle.
Distractions are part of every day life, considering how much technology has influenced our lives, we are inundated with distractions. Some may be silly pastimes like looking at your phone, others may be more real life issue like kids and family. Not to call them a distraction, but playing an active role in your family life, can sometimes steer your focus away from your own personal goals. Often times people will feel guilty for even trying to pursue their own goals as well as be a part of the family, but it not a selfish act. In a previous post, I discussed creating a routine that works well for your family and allows you the time and space to make progress towards your goals. I have always set up my home routine to allow me an hour to tend to my tasks, wether it be during bath time, while my daughter does her homework, or before bed. Express the importance of your work and needs to your family, together you can sit down and come up with piece of time that is totally yours, distraction free. Also knowing that you may have to say no to certain events or brunch dates sometimes, saying no to distractions even if they're appealing, is saying yes to your success.
Trying to reach the brass ring is 50 % motivation and 50% planning, and that pendulum can swing in any direction given the day or your mood. One of the best lessons I learned when I became a business owner was understanding time management. I've always struggled with that, and it took the longest time to become a habit. As you get closer and more knowledgeable about your goals, you'll come up with systems that will help you figure out how to use your time most efficiently. Research people who have been successful at what you're trying to accomplish, and see how they did it, learn as much as you possibly can from those who you consider mentors, and then write a plan for how you can implement these things in your daily routine. I usually designate days to certain tasks, thats how I manage to not only complete everything but also remember everything. If you stick with a schedule, it'll become habitual.
Your goals and dreams aren't for everyone to know and be a part of. Not everyone should have the right to be a part of that journey, of your journey. However, accountability is really what will help get you through the moments of struggle. When you can't find motivation, or you're distracted and lose focus, having a mentor or partner is the best motivator and support you can ask for. I'll never forget ONE conversation I had with a my friend and inspiration, he basically told me that I need to get it together and start prioritizing, and that one conversation changed the entire trajectory of my plan. Since that day, I've been consistent, motivated, and efficient. Find a partner or mentor who understands your weaknesses and struggles, so they know exactly how to encourage you during these times, they may not always be there to pet you, but they should always be there FOR you. Keeping yourself connected to someone who provides you with accountability can be the difference between success and struggle.
We have all experienced one or more of these feelings or moments in our lives, sometimes it's so hard to get out of it, to gain your focus back, to stay excited about what you're trying to do... but perseverance is the key. Always remember to reassess what you're goals are, if it's continuing to give you a sense of purpose, or if it's time to think bigger. Your obstacles are also a golden learning nugget, if your dream doesn't consist of strain, then it's probably not big enough. So, breath through the struggle, keep moving, and know... if there is a will, there is a way.
Laundry & Cleaning Supplies
Wipe down your washer & dryer, we don't pay attention to how clean our cleaning products are themselves, but when we walk into a clean laundering space, it makes laundry (a dreaded task) more inviting.
Bathroom: Product Clean-Up
Master Bedroom: Closet and ALL
Living Room & Common Areas
This was one of the most important areas I organized this year, having a space that is clean and organized really made me more productive. I found myself more motivated to work, spending more time tending to my task list, and really enjoying working overall.
Staying Organized is Staying Prepared
It's really easy to get stuck in a loop of routine, and even easier to keep hoarding things over time that really serve no purpose but cloud our space. It's a fact that the more material items take over your living space, the more crowded your mental space becomes. A huge part of being motivated to reach your goals in life, wether they be big or small, is being efficient. As a consumer-drive society, we've become used to constantly buying things, we're shown messages that make us believe we need more, but as we get more were gain less peace. If you're on the brink of doing big things in your life or progressing to the next phase of your life, it's the perfect time to release yourself of the old and renew yourself through simple minimalist living.
More that 45.2% of Americans are single, approximately 110 million. 1970 it was recorded 70% of Americans were married.
We've all been in that space, especially after a break up, where we find ourselves single and happy. We take time to get to know ourselves because of course we say "I don't even know myself anymore..." Life is full of adventure being single again, we star enjoying our freedom, checking things off bucket lists, going to the movies alone, brunching with our friends etc. It's all seemingly beautiful, fast forward 12 months. The picture looks a little different, slowly it morphs into a less colorful canvas, now fast forward another 12 months, and there lies the cynical you. The you that doesn't need anyone anymore. The you that's lost faith in love and relationships. The "been single too long" you.
When speaking with my clients, I always reassure them that being along is a positive journey, it's the perfect time to get back on their path, to enjoy themselves again, but there comes a point when I believe we/they become too comfortable being alone, and the reality is, it is our human nature that requires partnership and close relationships. In order to truly be our best selves, we do need intimate relationships, it's an integral part of our humanistic tendencies.
Ways to Know You've Been Single For Too Long
Your routine has become mundane.
Being single always starts out as a fun journey of self discovery, getting to know yourself and all the passions you have. You start to get into a groove of routine, you've got the workout down, the food down, work, and your social life... except it's always the same. You'll find yourself doing the same things, having the same conversations, and life can become dull after a while. This is because having some sort of healthy romantic relationship in your life offers a level of intimacy and gateway to another part of you, and who you are. Just like you have your work self, and your weekend self, you also have a romantic self, and just as all the other areas in your life need attention, so does your love self. Eventually all of the habits you pickup as a single person may begin to lack meaning and depth in your life. This is definitely a sign that you may be living the single life for more than it's welcome.
You've become cynical
Cynicism will become the virus that eats at your core, it's a terrible perspective to have in life and especially towards love. Every lid has a pot, an old saying my mother would say to me when I would become cynical about love and relationships. It may take a while for you to really and truly believe this, but you were not meant to be alone forever, and you won't. Being single is the perfect time to get yourself together, to pursue your goals, but to also know your needs and desires. It isn't the time to give up on relationships. If you've become cynical because of a past relationship, being single is the time to take inventory of why your past relationship didn't work, discover how you can make changes in the future, and start processing and healing, NOT continuing to feel the same emotions and sinking into that negative space. Not only is becoming cynical detrimental to you and your growth, but also isn't going to put you in a position to be open to new things and new experiences. If you're in the cynical space already, it's time to re-evaluate why you are single, and if you're truly happy being single.
You've created a laundry list of deal breakers
As discussed above, the single life is the time for analyzing your choices and your past, your failures and successes, everything. It's the time to get to know what you need in a partner, and simplify your prospects by knowing what red flags are for you. You may have children, so perhaps someone who says they don't want kids, would be a red flag. This makes sense, it isn't asking too much, it's making smart choices. However, making a list that consists of deal breakers like "lives off the 101" or "wears wide leg jeans" or "makes corny jokes" is taking it way too far. Become overly picky and spending too much time developing this list will most certainly leave you swimming in a pool of 2 fish, both being your 2 guy friends. If you've created a list with petty deal breakers on it, you've definitely been single for way too long.
So, you finally decide to get back out there, everything is going well, you're on a the first couple of dates and it all looks promising, until your cynicism kicks in. It tells you to be careful, not to trust it, to doubt everything, and so you begin to react to that. You push your date away, leave them thinking you're undoubtedly crazy, and give them an unfair judgement of not only themselves but of you too. This is text book self-sabotage. I was guilty of this every time, just waiting for the other shoe to drop and if it didn't I would create a situation to see what my new guy would do, but I didn't realize I was creating drama and turning him off. I did all this to avoid being hurt, avoid having to get any deeper in my emotions, and essentially avoid being in a happy relationship. Being single is great, until you become so good at it, that you subconsciously begin to ruin any sign of something good, this is when you've spent a little too much time alone that you lose all idea of how to let someone in.
You're starting to feel it
Lastly, you just know it's been way too long. Humans need interaction on so many different levels, but intimacy is one of them. After a period of time, you'll yearn for love and a relationship, you'll start to feel lonely. Not just single. This is when your heart, spirit, and soul are talking to you; listen to your inner self. The time that you have spent being single is for just that, listening to your inner voice. You cannot be scared or tormented by the past, you cannot let your bitterness take over your joy, and you cannot stop love from finding you. It will, and it will find you best, when you're open, you're ready, and you're happy.
Just like infants who receive that nurturing loving beginning, turn out to be more wholesome children and then stronger citizens, so do we need that as adults in order to push us to the next level of our needs.
With abundant love,
You've finally decided to start pursuing your goals, you're managing all of your tasks, and for the most part, progression is happening, but you notice that you find yourself being exhausted, sometimes borderline discouraged, and all you want is a hug or listening ear. This moment can be frustrating and feel lonely, but it shouldn't, and there are ways to get out of it.
Starting a new business or even just getting yourself in a better state of mind, requires a lot of time, effort, and self motivation, all of which can wear us down. Although we may have the tools and the energy to work at beast mode level, it's impossible to maintain, and the only way to regenerate ourselves is through an ongoing foundation of support.
For some of us, that support may be our friends, for others it may be a network of like minded people. Either way, we need to make sure we're linked to some kind of encouragement group, but it can be difficult to reach out and ask for help. The thing is, most people want to help and find their own motivation in doing so, but not everyone has your best interest in mind, and that, is what we need to be sure of, before we invite someone onto our path to success.
HOW TO KNOW SOMEONE IS GENUINELY SUPPORTIVE
They Check In With You
Many times we'll tell our support or our friends about what we're trying to accomplish, and even that can be a big deal. Sharing your dreams and vision can feel naked, we don't always know how someone is going to take it, but true friends/support will encourage you. In fact, not only will they encourage you, but they'll check in with you to see if you've made progress. Accountability is probably one of the most motivating factors when it comes to goals. I just got a personal trainer and it was the best decision I made for myself, because I know he's going to make sure I give 100%. Keeping people around you who really want to see your vision come to life is vital, and you'll know this is real when they call you to see how it's going. These are keepers!!!
"Accountability is probably one of the most motivating factors when it comes to goals."
They Allow You Space
We've all been there, everyone's hanging out and you really want to go but you know you have work to do, you carved out time to get it done, but you suddenly feel this pressure like you HAVE to be there. So you call your friends and tell them you can't go because you need to work, and they give you "booooorrrrring" and try to convince you that you can do it another time. This is definitely not support that understands the magnitude of what you're trying to accomplish. we all suffer from #fomo sometimes, but trust me Sunday Funday can wait. In fact, next week there will be another one you can plan on attending. The type of support you need while making moves, is the kind that doesn't give you a hard time about skipping certain events, in fact, they encourage you to get things done. Not everyone is going to give you that, but pay attention to those that do. Set up a schedule for yourself and let them know about it, maybe they'll work around it, but if they don't and they tell you something along the lines of "get it girl," then you know you've got some A team support. Support isn't offended by your absence when you're chasing your dreams, instead they're proud of your effort.
"Support isn't offended by your absence when you're chasing your dreams."
They Offer Help
Having a support group doesn't just mean sitting on the side lines being a by stander, it also means offering you help. Be wary of friends/support who do nothing but watch you work hard, they may not be here to celebrate your victories or believe in you. The kind of support you'll need is going to make sure they've given you resources too, they're going to want to watch and participate in your victories, small or large. Wether it be watching your kids for an hour, or looking into something for you, or just being a shoulder when you feel discouraged. True support let's you know that they're there for you and tells you to call on them. Not only will these people rejoice over your accomplishments, but they're going to feel motivated by you too. The first order of networking is looking in your circle, who and what can you pull from those who are there for you. Real support wants to help you succeed and be a part of that success.
"Real support wants to help you succeed and be a part of that success."
They Celebrate You
Being excited about what you're doing is what will keep you working hard, but we don't always have the self motivation when we're tired and discouraged. This is where your tribe comes in, look for those who celebrate what you're trying to achieve. Stay around those who are moved by what you're doing and toast to your new found mission. You'll begin to see certain people who won't mention your goals or achievements, they won't display emotions of joy when you speak about it. Perhaps they're feeling insecure or jealous, or don't have the motivation that you have. We never want to feel alone when we're working towards a life goal, and it's ok to need a pat on the back every now and then. Your support should be encouraging you and reminding you of how awesome it is that you're pursuing your passions.
"Your support should be encouraging you and reminding you of how awesome it is that you're pursuing your passions."
Let's face it, what you're trying to do is AMAZING!!! You're taking the steps to become a better you, and in turn, offering the world something spectacular. This is no small feat, and everyone around you should feel the same way about it. Working as hard as you are to make sure you're hitting every target takes a lot of work, time, and energy, and the best thing to have around you is support. There may come a time when you look at your circle of friends and realize some are not going to give you that, don't be discouraged, not every friend is meant to be in your life for the same reasons. In the same tone, not every friend is going to follow you on your journey, and that's ok too. However, in order for you to get to where you need to be, you're going to need a strong tribe of people who are going to celebrate with you, keep you accountable, and help you when you need it. Seek those people out, bring them into your vision, and call on them. Your journey may be a stepping stone for them too.
You Got This!!!!
This weekend I found myself in San Francisco to talk about "being a single mother in the dating world," and while it's always great once it's done, it was the first time I'd spoken at a public event. It was nerve wrecking but also exhilarating and challenged me to explore a new side of myself and my skills.
Thankfully, I was over prepared and made sure I took enough time to practice my speech. What occurred there was truly magical for me, it provided me the opportunity to do something I've never done and to overcome a fear I never even knew I had. It prompted this post.
You're currently either living in a space of growth or a space of stagnance.
As some of you are doing now, I found myself working a job that began to lose it's sense of purpose in my life. I loved what I was doing, and I still did it well, but it wasn't feeding me in the way that I needed in order to maintain my sense of sanity and peace. I was comfortable, but not truly happy.
"The average lifespan is 28,000 days, of which we spend 11,000-13,000 committed to work."