This weekend I found myself in San Francisco to talk about "being a single mother in the dating world," and while it's always great once it's done, it was the first time I'd spoken at a public event. It was nerve wrecking but also exhilarating and challenged me to explore a new side of myself and my skills.
Thankfully, I was over prepared and made sure I took enough time to practice my speech. What occurred there was truly magical for me, it provided me the opportunity to do something I've never done and to overcome a fear I never even knew I had. It prompted this post.
You're currently either living in a space of growth or a space of stagnance.
As some of you are doing now, I found myself working a job that began to lose it's sense of purpose in my life. I loved what I was doing, and I still did it well, but it wasn't feeding me in the way that I needed in order to maintain my sense of sanity and peace. I was comfortable, but not truly happy.
"The average lifespan is 28,000 days, of which we spend 11,000-13,000 committed to work."
Read that OVER and OVER again... that is almost half of your life. In fact, you end up spending more time with your co-workers than your kids and your partners. This is really a big deal.
Speaking with a workout buddy, he continued to tell me about his daughter-in-law who's been a postal worker for almost 15 years and will be 42 and retiring, I get it. She made the decision to stay, sure she wasn't creatively motivated, but the logistics made sense. If that's you, honey STICK IT OUT. Sometimes it's worth it regardless of it inspires you. The mantra "work smarter not harder," will always ring true. However, if you're working a job that not only drains you, but doesn't nurture you in any way, it may be time to consider doing something else or additional.
That was me, that is me. And if that's you, this post is for you.
A couple of reasons you might find yourself in this position...
So, now that we've covered some of the facts about why we are not only leaving our jobs, but creating self motivated ones, let's get into how you can change your position in the work force.
1. Know Your Gifts
For the most part, we all have a skill that we either use, or don't use. Think about the things you do for fun, are they something you can turn into a side business? Do your hobbies take up a significant portion of your personal time? Are you fully versed in it? Could you use more experience or education? Is there a market for it? These questions are all mandatory when it comes to starting a new business, it's also important to know because, let's face it, we don't just want to survive we want to thrive. Something that Alex Williamson said today really struck a chord in me, and hopefully you too.
The best way to figure out what business to start, is to look at society, see what's broken, and find a way to fix it.
This is the realest piece of information you can have right now. If you can manage to fill a void in the market while also staying inspire and intrinsically motivated, you're halfway there.
2. Create A Life Goals Plan
This was a game changer for me!!! A dear friend came over once and proceeded to tell me how creative I am, and how many successful ideas I had, but how I was unable to follow through. After a long talk and a few bottles of wine, we came to the conclusion that I needed a plan... a life goals plan. So, thats what I created. Initially it was a simple plan, it helped me realize what my overall goal was, but it narrowed it down into small goals that were attainable. It's much easier to look at the big picture and dream about what we want, versus knowing the small tasks we have to complete today in order to get there. This is what mine looked like, I've attached a downloadable link for you to do the same.
3. Decide How Important This Is To You
After reading this far into it, you've already established what your skills are, you analyzed the market, you've figured out what you need to do to get here, now it's only a matter of starting. You can sit there and make a million reasons or excuses as to why it won't work, or what time you don't have , OR you can say "my plan starts today/tomorrow." It's hard, believe me, I understand. I spent most of my adult life coming up with excuses, and then I sit with myself and get upset about all the wasted time. I've watched people progress while I've stayed stagnant, wasting my gifts. You may not get the success you want in the beginning, things may take time, but you'll never know how much you're capable of achieving if you don't start. You don't have to be the best, but you have to start.
Today is your opportunity to live out your dreams. What will you do with the next 24hrs of your life???