Stop Thinking You've Reached Your Prime

The best is yet to come.

In general we always think of our past as "the golden days," when we were thinner, we had a lover who was everything, we had a zest for life, we were active and busy, and that somehow those days are obsolete and gone. Stop this narrative. RIGHT NOW!! Let's cover all the areas in your life that are far from their prime, and start saying "I will" instead of "I can't."

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If you're single and dating, your ex isn't the best you'll ever have.

We all know how difficult dating is, as a single person myself, I share in the moments of frustration. Dating has become such a difficult thing to do, seems marriages are ending in divorce at an alarming rate, men and women are becoming more and superficial, and all we're doing is aging. Simultaneously the pool gets smaller. And so, we'll make the mistake of feeling like our ex's where the best we'd find. We end up dreaming and fantasizing of days when we were happy with them, all the traits we loved about them. Here's the thing, all of our past relationships served a purpose... to teach us about ourselves. With each ended relationship we get to walk away with a stronger sense of our needs, wants and desires. We get a little bit closer to finding our match. Now, our needs cannot be laundry list of insanity, we have to be willing to work with certain things. But breakups happen for a reason, and it's probably legitimate, stop rewriting the past, it can't be undone. Instead, look into your 'future bae', what does he/she look like, what does an ideal relationship look like, manifest the energy you want to attract. Your past is exactly that, your past. Take what you need from it and apply it to the future, you will get everything you want from a partner. Our insecurities about ourselves are so grand sometimes, that we don't believe we're worth what we desire, but we have to start speaking into ourselves, we have to start treating ourselves with the love that we require from a partner first.  As my mother would say, 'there's a lid for every pot,' why not begin to say, "when I'm ready, my partner will arrive."

Timing is everything. Sometimes, we aren't ready to receive our blessings, get yourself ready for yours. Impatience will only lead to settling.

I'll never look that good again.

,YES YOU WILL!! This one is so dear to me, I'm currently in the middle of battling this out with myself, and the stronger me is winning. As we get older our bodies begin to change, the facts are that as we age, we gain weight; however, we don't gain weight because our bodies just stop working, we gain weight because we stop being as active as we used to be in our youth. This is an easy fix. GET UP! I got so sick of feeling insecure about my body, always covering myself in front of my lover, always speaking negatively about my body, and while we all do these things, we have to stop. We can choose to do two things, find confidence in where we are now, OR find the discipline and motivation to change it. It always begins with you. Stand in the mirror naked and really analyze your body, touch it, speak to it, understand the magic of your skin. Do this every damn day. If after sometime, you don't like how you feel, then change it. Start with little changes, decide every time you eat, you are eating for your health, you are making a decision to treat your body better. Think about how much activity you do a day, is it enough? Commit to 15 minutes of physical activity when you wake up, don't make it a huge goal, start small. Remind yourself that you are doing this for your body, for your heart, for your soul. You can feel and look as sexy as you want, but how bad do you want it? Don't give up on yourself yet.

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Your body is only as good as you treat it, and once you begin to treat your body better, you will begin to look at your body better.

I'm boring!

If you are beginning to feel like you're bored or boring, then you probably are. Feeling fulfilled in our lives is such a huge challenge these days. Todays society has taught us to focus on work and home, to sew all of our energy into these two things, to stress ourselves with overtime and achieving the "American Dream." But what about YOUR dreams, what about the childlike imagination and energy you still have? As we mature, we forget this side of ourselves. We forget to be silly, we forget about how we used to love riding our bikes, or how we used to draw under a tree in the shade. Being bored with life is sometimes a choice, but you can choose to be full of  life instead. Make a list of all the things you see people doing that you want to do, create a vision board of what your dream lifestyle would be. Maybe its farmers markets on Sunday mornings, surfing, photography, singing in a band. Each week do one of those things, without fail. This isn't about making a commitment to the event, this about making a commitment to yourself. 

Living your best life, means being excited about your life. You cannot be on the bench of your own dreams. There's no reason, someone else is living the life YOU want. Create it, your best days are in your hands.

Everything we do or have in this life, is a result of our choices. This is the truest lesson I have learned. Do not underestimate the power you have over your own destiny, over your happiness, over your sense of peace. Know when to call bullshit on yourself. REMEMBER... you can have it all.