We're more than halfway through the year, you've probably written down your yearly goals and created your vision board, but nothing has played out the way you planned in the beginning of the year. We've all been there, I usually struggle with one of my goals during the year, and if you're reading this, you're probably standing in that position. It's difficult maintaining a certain level of motivation and keeping yourself focused on the goal, but rest assured you can get back on track. Motivation is much like waves, sometimes it comes crashing on you and you feel like you've got everything under control, other times its barely rising and you can't seem to get excited to do the most basic tasks. It's ok, you'll get there, understanding why you're not motivated is the first step into finding your passion again.
You've Lost Excitement
This is one of those fundamental truths that can happen to the most successful of people. Bottomline, if your heart isn't in it, your actions won't be either. You may have a goal in mind or a vision for you life, and it may seem like the most exciting thing or accomplishment you can achieve when you first start out, but then over time you may begin to lose that passion for the shiny gold prize. The goal itself may not be as important to you, and if that's the case you may want to reassess your goals. That's ok, as we grow and change so does our vision of our future. Just like as children we all wanted to be a vet or a cowboy, as we get older that changes, this is life, and it's natural. If you find yourself unmoved by your goal plan, reevaluate it, change it, recreate it. Whatever you want to do with you life, let it be a source of your joy, not a struggle.
Distractions are part of every day life, considering how much technology has influenced our lives, we are inundated with distractions. Some may be silly pastimes like looking at your phone, others may be more real life issue like kids and family. Not to call them a distraction, but playing an active role in your family life, can sometimes steer your focus away from your own personal goals. Often times people will feel guilty for even trying to pursue their own goals as well as be a part of the family, but it not a selfish act. In a previous post, I discussed creating a routine that works well for your family and allows you the time and space to make progress towards your goals. I have always set up my home routine to allow me an hour to tend to my tasks, wether it be during bath time, while my daughter does her homework, or before bed. Express the importance of your work and needs to your family, together you can sit down and come up with piece of time that is totally yours, distraction free. Also knowing that you may have to say no to certain events or brunch dates sometimes, saying no to distractions even if they're appealing, is saying yes to your success.
Trying to reach the brass ring is 50 % motivation and 50% planning, and that pendulum can swing in any direction given the day or your mood. One of the best lessons I learned when I became a business owner was understanding time management. I've always struggled with that, and it took the longest time to become a habit. As you get closer and more knowledgeable about your goals, you'll come up with systems that will help you figure out how to use your time most efficiently. Research people who have been successful at what you're trying to accomplish, and see how they did it, learn as much as you possibly can from those who you consider mentors, and then write a plan for how you can implement these things in your daily routine. I usually designate days to certain tasks, thats how I manage to not only complete everything but also remember everything. If you stick with a schedule, it'll become habitual.
Your goals and dreams aren't for everyone to know and be a part of. Not everyone should have the right to be a part of that journey, of your journey. However, accountability is really what will help get you through the moments of struggle. When you can't find motivation, or you're distracted and lose focus, having a mentor or partner is the best motivator and support you can ask for. I'll never forget ONE conversation I had with a my friend and inspiration, he basically told me that I need to get it together and start prioritizing, and that one conversation changed the entire trajectory of my plan. Since that day, I've been consistent, motivated, and efficient. Find a partner or mentor who understands your weaknesses and struggles, so they know exactly how to encourage you during these times, they may not always be there to pet you, but they should always be there FOR you. Keeping yourself connected to someone who provides you with accountability can be the difference between success and struggle.
We have all experienced one or more of these feelings or moments in our lives, sometimes it's so hard to get out of it, to gain your focus back, to stay excited about what you're trying to do... but perseverance is the key. Always remember to reassess what you're goals are, if it's continuing to give you a sense of purpose, or if it's time to think bigger. Your obstacles are also a golden learning nugget, if your dream doesn't consist of strain, then it's probably not big enough. So, breath through the struggle, keep moving, and know... if there is a will, there is a way.